We aren't the first species reaching for the stars

For thousands of years mankind has been gazing up to the stars, and now we do have the opportunity to reach for them as well. It seems to be the normal way of evolution to start exploring the universe. But we need to think about how we do that and when we do it. You might say we can reach for the stars already, but can we really? We might be able to do it from our technological knowledge in a few decades, but there is more that we need to prepare. Aliens will instantly know what we are about, by just scanning our leaky mind. So if we live in peace, in equality and everyone has the same chances with opportunities, then we make a good impression, but if there is much inequality, starvation, wars and de-location of people then do we still make a good impression? 

Humanity has just arrived

It would be very selfish to state that we are the first species reaching for the stars. Our galaxy is billions of years old and there are also billions of stars and exoplanets that potentially have intelligent life. And they might have evolved millions of years before humans have. So they have reached for the stars, whilst earth still was trying to survive with dinosaurs. Regarding exploring the galaxy and reaching for the stars, humanity has just been born and we still don't know how to act and how to use appropriate technologies. But at the same time aliens have been through it all. They have evolved into logic based friendly extraterrestrials. I specifically say this, that they are logical and kind, as it is the obvious way for intelligent life to evolve. I will explain.

Logic based thinking

When a species evolves, there will be a point in time when they would have looked and analyzed their own methods or reacting to problems. An example is human emotion and how these emotions influence decision making. Many decisions we make are based on emotions alone, and in many cases these decisions are bad ones. Think of decisions made out of love, fear or hate which can have disastrous consequences. If one takes control of ones emotions, then these negative consequences can be avoided altogether. For this you need to get into a state of mind where you feel emotions come and go, but they don't influence how you think or how you act. When you are able to do that, then you can make decisions which purely are based on logic. Aliens most likely have evolved through this as well, and thus their decision making purely is based on logic. If we want humans to be able to talk with aliens, then we need to take emotions out of the equation, aka we need to learn how to make good decisions based on logic without being lead by emotions. This doesn't mean we can't be emotional, but we need to separate decisions from emotions.

Aliens are benign

I assure you, you don't have to be afraid of aliens and that has a good reason. Aliens have just like us once been in the situation to reach for the stars, but also for them the question arose what to do if they would encounter hostile aliens. With this there are two options to occur:

• they feared such an encounter and thus they would take appropriate measures to protect themselves;
• they did explore the universe and consequently encountered aliens. But they met hostile aliens which ended badly and thus they won't want to repeat that situation by protection.

The obvious question is how would they protect themselves? You might say with weaponry, and they most likely have it as a last resort simply for protection. But this isn't the primary way to protect oneself. They would use stealth aka come in secret without the visited species knowing about it. That way they know for sure they are protected and can determine in safety if the new species is benign or hostile. In that case there are also two options occurring:

• the visited species is considered hostile. In this case they simply would let that species alone;
• the visited species is considered benign. Here lies the opportunity for the aliens. They would make first contact and most likely would invite the new species to join the alien society.

This last point has many advantages. The good aliens would be a growing group of good species, sharing their technologies and knowledge. It is the best way to defend oneself as a benign species against threats. The hostile aliens on the other hand would not get the opportunity to join the alien society and thus wouldn't have all the advantages. The hostile aliens would develop very slow and their numbers would be minimal compared to the benign alien group. From this we can stipulate that aliens are benign, friendly and kind.

Humans have to change

Previous two reasons show what aliens are like. They make decisions based on logic and reasoning, and they are kind. Now you can say, we are like that for sure. Then I would ask you: "Are we really kind and are we really logical?". To answer this question you must open your eyes and see what is going on this World. And the message you see, isn't a good one. There have been Wars in many countries, people have been chased out of their homes and countries, there is poverty everywhere with a small rich group not caring about the rest. If an alien would see this happen, then what would they think? Would they think we are friendly and kind, or would they think we are difficult, unfair, hostile and armed to the teeth? I guess you know the answer to that yourself. We are considered the hostile aliens here and from that point of view the aliens wouldn't want to do anything with us. So per definition we are separated from the good alien group, unless we change. An additional problem is that we use emotional based thought and decisions made from that in many cases are faulty. If we really want to communicate with aliens, then we need to use logic without the emotional factor. This would mean we need to train in having equanimity so that decisions aren't based on our emotions.

Read furthur in: Why should we change for Aliens?

Why do we need to be Kind to Aliens?

The main argument to bring the Kind back into Mankind, is from the point of view that we are being judged as we speak. And we are under judgment by Aliens. You do not know this as you cannot see this, but they are here. So what is the reason for mankind being judged by Aliens right now, why do I believe that they come in peace and how do we go from there?

Why are we under judgment?

We have signaled to the universe in the past by using a nuclear test bomb at first, then one on Hiroshima and one on Nagasaki. These were our signal to the universe that humans are here on this planet and it was detected! They came here, but as we used nuclear weaponry, they came in stealth and in fear. Logic dictates that we should be very cautious with hostile aliens, and we are the ones considered hostile. As they came here and saw us being armed to the teeth, they put us under judgment. The judgment is about whether we can join their alien galactic society or not. But as we don't seem to change or are too stubborn, then their judgment will continue until the last moment. And that we need to change is obvious, as the maximum in the current World affairs is of destruction.

Why can't we see them?

They fear our actions! You might ask, why do they fear us as we clearly fear them? We only fear them as we are unaware of things to come. But if you set aside the unknown and set aside your basic instincts aka your emotions, then only logic remains. And they do fear us, for our potential of destruction. But it is also their logic that dictates that we cannot see them. They are here in stealth, but that doesn't mean it is a bad thing for us. We still are being judged and thus we still have the opportunity to do the right thing. But it is up to us for sure. They won't show themselves until the point that we start signaling the expected thing, which is Kindness.

They come in peace

As stated in the Alien Assessment of nuclear armed Earth, the chance is very high that if there are aliens around, then they come in peace. We are used to Hollywood movies depicting a violent entry of aliens, who only have interest in harvesting this planet and then go on. If they are here and this would be the case, then we wouldn't be speaking right now. But there is another important reason why they come in peace. They have been around for a long time already - as can be expected in this fast and a million year old galaxy - and thus they have very advanced technologies and have made contact with other societies. But with them reaching to the stars, they would have come in contact with hostile aliens as well. From that they learned and thus they would come in stealth before making first contact. They would want to know at first hand if the alien society is benign or dangerous. If they see that the new society is benign then they can join their alien galactic society. But if they are hostile then they cannot join. This is the main argument that a bigger growing group of extraterrestrial societies must consist of benign aliens, with the hostile group of aliens remaining small. So the chance is very high that they will come in peace, as they most likely come from the big benign alien group.

So what do we need to do?

Earthlings need to understand that there is nothing to fear. If aliens would come here or are already here, then they would come in stealth aka we couldn't see them at first. This as they want to protect themselves and need to be sure what we are all about. They would be looking for signs that we are a benign and kind society. Currently we have many problems on Earth as crises seem to be maximizing everywhere, with wars in many places and people dislocating from their homes. Obviously these are signals that they will interpret as not good. We do not treat our citizens in a proper or respectful way, and thus they will expect us to do the same with them. So we need to put the Kind back into Mankind, by being nice and kind again. It is important for us to disarm all nuclear weaponry and never use them again. Next to that we need to try help everyone on this planet, wherever they are.

Be kind!

People use the basic rule: "treat others the same way as you want to be treated". And I agree very much on this point of view. If you want to be treated nice by others, then you should start to do so as well. But this goes also for the bigger picture. If - as stated - Aliens are here right now then we as a species must show them how we will treat them, by treating our own citizens in the best way. If the Aliens see that we are Kind and non-threatening, then they will be Kind to us as well. But if they see us armed to the teeth and prepared to push the button, then they will remain distant. You wouldn't come close to a barking dog as well. So if humanity has goals to reach for the stars, then we need to show an open and kind society to them. Man needs to change by being nice again!

The Galactic War that shaped our Solar System:

Let's put the kind back in Mankind

Everyone knows that being positive, has a good influence on people around us. But being positive and a good person isn't a quality that everyone of us has. This can be due to bad things happening in a person's life, trauma's or continual being influenced in a negative way. And this is exactly what the World seems to be doing in these times of uncertainty. Crises seem to be pounding on the world constantly and obviously have a negative effect on the mental state of people. "Positivity is the practice of being or tendency to be positive or optimistic in attitude" and this positivity needs to be practiced in order to become optimistic again. How can positivity help people in becoming a good person and how can one's emotional control with actions help us and others surrounding us? 

Table of contents

Having a positive vibe

How can equanimity help?

How do you react to an angry person?

Being in control of yourself

Mankind doesn't seem to be nice anymore and has lost the kind part. Being positive and kind to others is the main ingredients for humans to be able to live in peace together. It is necessary for all humans on Earth to be able to live together. How can  you personally change for a better future and how can you do it better for yourself and your surrounding by being nice, thinking good, talking good and doing good?

Having a positive vibe

Positiveness works like a dimple caused by a stone thrown in water. If you are positive, kind and fair, then this vibe has a positive influence on the people surrounding you. Then these people also get more positive resulting in a spreading of kindness. Obviously this is easier said than done as the World seems to be in a continual state of negativeness. And that is exactly what we need to change. Being kind is the essential being of humans, but many seem to have forgotten this part of the word mankind. Without the kind part there only remains man and that is something that we must prevent at all cost, by being gentle, kind and having friendliness with everyone around us in every situation.

"You can actually see or feel your emotional state come and go, as your mind and body tries to react on a specific situation".

Being a good person

If you want to be a good person, then you need to be consistent with how you react and what you do. The basic with this would be: thinking good, talking good and doing good. 

Thinking good

The best way to react on a situation is by thinking before reacting. If you have thought about a situation then in most cases you don't do anything which you shouldn't. Just thinking for five or more seconds can give you the wisdom to do the correct thing. Impulse reactions on situations can result in doing the wrong thing and thus it is better to think before doing (this also goes for split-second decisions such as in dangerous situations, but most often our instinct jumps into action). 

Talking good

"Words are more powerful than a sword".  Anything that you say, can have a positive or a negative effect on others. With this it is especially wise to remember that you do not know, what others are going through. What you say can actually make or break someone for that day, but what you say can also change how others think as well. So you can change someone's thinking by what you are saying. As words can be a very powerful tool in specific circumstances, then you must know how to use your words and understand completely the message that you try say. Talking good can make someone's day, but talking bad can brake it which potentially can have devastating consequences. For this reason you should speak clearly and positively with all that you encounter or meet everyday.

Doing good

Thinking good and talking good will lead to doing good as well. What we say and do reflects on who we are as a person. But in many cases just words aren't enough. Like politicians who say or promise something but do the opposite instead. This means that words need to be followed with actions. If something is said or promised but you don't do anything about it, then those words have been in vain. So doing good means acting good, but it also means learning from your mistakes. You are just human and can make mistakes, but if a wrong mistake is repeated constantly then that would mean a concrete decision to do so. You must and can make mistakes, so that you learn from it and thus don't repeat the mistake again. That is the only way to become a good person. When you understand how to do good, then you see opportunities in every daily life to do so.

"As your positiveness comes in a natural way, then this will reflect automatically in your actions as well".

How can equanimity help?

The way people react to others mainly depends on the person's emotional state. People have many kinds of emotions such as trust, joy, anticipation, anger, disgust, sadness, surprise or fear. From these emotional states a person can react on a person accordingly. But if you have control over these emotional states or are aware that you are influenced by these states, then you can do something about it. A useful method to cope with your emotional state is controlling it with equanimity. This is "a mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation". It means that you try to stay focused during any of your emotional states. You can actually see or feel your emotional state come and go, as your mind and body tries to react on a specific situation. If you have this control then you can remain positive as emotions can come and go, without interfering with your state of mind.

How do you react to an angry person?

Most common reaction is being angry or having an emotional state resulting in anger. As someone is angry, it means that they do not have control over their own emotions. A thing that you should remember is that you shouldn't try to convince or argue with someone who is in this emotional state as they will not listen to reason. So the focus when you are confronted with an angry person (such as an angry customer) should be on listening and showing understanding in order for them to drain their anger. If you show in that state that you are trying to help them, then their anger will go away or get less. While listening you can try to think of a solution for their current problem. If you are in a relationship and your partner is angry, then the most effective way is to just be quiet without being judgemental. Things said during an angry state in most cases weren't meant like that, and thus shouldn't be taken seriously. Just let it be and it will pass quickly for sure. Do not get into their emotional state, which obviously will worsen the situation. Remaining neutral is essential in order for others to drain their anger, whilst you shouldn't take it personally. You can compare this with water and fire. If one has a temper like fire but the other remains like water, then the fire will be drained away aka will be put out. When this situation re-occurs regularly, then the intensity of it will reduce and gradually the frequency of their emotional state will reduce as well.

Being in control of yourself

The best way to be positive is to have control of your emotions and emotional state. If you can distance yourself from the emotions, then you can see them come and go. It gives you freedom to make decisions and take actions without being interfered or lead by emotions. This also gives you the opportunity to take action as a good person. Thinking, talking and doing good are a simple consequence of your positive mental state. With this comes the responsibility in acting good as well, but as your positiveness comes in a natural way, then this will reflect automatically in your actions as well. As you are positive and act like it, then this will have a positive effect on others around you and so being a positive person can have a dimpling effect resulting in others surrounding you getting positive as well. Let's make the World positive again by being a good person!